This needs to be added:

Parental Alienation is not a term Becky or I have made up to conveniently describe the impact of my daughter’s behavior (and more importantly my ex-wife’s behavior, since she is the “ADULT” on that side of the equation) towards us. It is a well-documented issue:

“There are no effective treatment protocols that have been validated for either the obsessed alienator or the PAS children. The courts and mental health professionals are sincere in wanting to help these families but their efforts frequently fail.

The best hope for children affected by an obsessed alienator is early identification of the symptoms and prevention. After the alienation is entrenched and the children become “true believers” in the parent’s cause, the children may be lost to the other parent for years to come. I realize this is a sad statement, but I have yet to find an effective intervention, by anyone, including the courts that can rehabilitate the alienating parent and child. There can still be hope in that spontaneous reunification can occur, usually in response to a crisis that causes the alienated child to reach out to the rejected parent.”

Copyright 1997 by Douglas Darnall, Ph.D.

A PA licensed psychologist told us that there was little hope in this situation ever getting better.

Trust me…it took a long time to come to grips with this concept. I refused to believe that this could be happening, that any real kind of rift could be forming between my daughters and me, but at this time I would have to be a blind, ignorant fool to continue in my refusal of what reality has presented me.

I am hurt, angry, and disappointed, but do not confuse my personal feelings and our recent decisions with the belief that I do not LOVE MY DAUGHTERS. Quite to the contrary, like any rational parent the concept of NOT loving them is as foreign to me as breathing under water.

I just refuse to allow the pain and anguish that we have suffered through all of this to continue.

It is easy to supply a “fix” to this situation when you are living outside of the circumstances. Trust me…we have tried it. Even to the point of allowing a temporary custody agreement, which limited the amount of time the girls were in the presence of both Becky and Max. Even though this agreement sickened me, I allowed it to happen (with the caveat included that it WOULD only be a temporary agreement). Unfortunately, even this did NOTHING to improve the situation.

No one can understand this type of situation until they have lived it and believe me…I wish this on no one.

Every day I live with the hurt, anger, and confusion that this has created. I push it down and I go on. All I can do at this time is apologize for their actions to anyone that may be affected.

To Becky, Max, Mom, and all the rest of my family.

I am sorry.