Comments on: Example Statements of an Obsessed Alienator http://rnjlewis.wordpress.com/2008/06/26/example-statements-of-an-obsessed-alienator/ Random Ramblings Thu, 09 Oct 2008 01:10:10 +0000 http://wordpress.com/ hourly 1 By: rnjlewis http://rnjlewis.wordpress.com/2008/06/26/example-statements-of-an-obsessed-alienator/#comment-85 rnjlewis Tue, 29 Jul 2008 11:41:21 +0000 http://rnjlewis.wordpress.com/?p=156#comment-85 hanks for posting on our blog. Our parental alienation posts have received a lot of responses and some of our family remains in denail that there isn't more we can do with the situation with our girls. Our girls are fifteen and eighteen. They have to decide to completely cut their biological dad and me ( their step-mother) out of their life. I have a six year old and they want no parts of him either, hard for him to understand. Their mother has encouraged it and says she won't do anything the girls don't want to do including counseling. The girls need counseling very bad and we fear for their adult life without it. Your situation is hard too. If I were you and the boys are 8 and 11 and depending on what state you live in, I would file petitions of contempt. Your kids are way too young and you actually stand a fighting chance of putting this to a stop if you are persistent. It will cost money but if you have a smart lawyer and he is found in contempt then he can make him pay your court costs, or if you can't afford a lawyer lots of states have a free lawyer program. To be honest I would just keep taking him to court for contempt, soon the court is going to get tired of it. Some other things I would do....1. Get your kids counseling. This may seem really scary in the beginning. But if you find a good counseler it can only be good. The kids may have been brainwashed and they will need behavioral therapy to change that. 2. See if your state offers a co-parenting class and then when you go for contempt make this part of the court order that your ex attends these classes with you. 3. Be there for your kids. Never talk bad about your ex even when the kids bring up that he says this about you. Just tell them that your not and move on to another subject. 4. Be patient. If you need support please feel free to write me back! hanks for posting on our blog. Our parental alienation posts have received a
lot of responses and some of our family remains in denail that there isn’t more
we can do with the situation with our girls. Our girls are fifteen and
eighteen. They have to decide to completely cut their biological dad and me (
their step-mother) out of their life. I have a six year old and they want no
parts of him either, hard for him to understand. Their mother has encouraged it
and says she won’t do anything the girls don’t want to do including counseling.
The girls need counseling very bad and we fear for their adult life without it.

Your situation is hard too. If I were you and the boys are 8 and 11 and
depending on what state you live in, I would file petitions of contempt. Your
kids are way too young and you actually stand a fighting chance of putting this
to a stop if you are persistent. It will cost money but if you have a smart
lawyer and he is found in contempt then he can make him pay your court costs, or if you can’t afford a lawyer lots of states have a free lawyer
program. To be honest I would just keep taking him to court for contempt, soon
the court is going to get tired of it.

Some other things I would do….1. Get your kids counseling. This may seem
really scary in the beginning. But if you find a good counseler it can only be
good. The kids may have been brainwashed and they will need behavioral therapy
to change that.

2. See if your state offers a co-parenting class and then when you go for
contempt make this part of the court order that your ex attends these classes
with you.

3. Be there for your kids. Never talk bad about your ex even when the kids
bring up that he says this about you. Just tell them that your not and move on
to another subject.

4. Be patient.

If you need support please feel free to write me back!

]]> By: Meredith http://rnjlewis.wordpress.com/2008/06/26/example-statements-of-an-obsessed-alienator/#comment-84 Meredith Tue, 29 Jul 2008 00:22:59 +0000 http://rnjlewis.wordpress.com/?p=156#comment-84 Mjlewis, I am finding out that I am a minority. I am the mother and I am supposed to have primary custody.He has done everything in his power to teach my boys to hate me and my family.I hate what you are going through.I hate it for the kids.I have decided to take my ex back to court for contempt.He brings them home when he wants to. I am sick about the situation.Why can't we live in peace.I will be praying for you and your family.It is very hard on everyone.I think maybe by communicating with others about this, we can help each other cope. I don't have any friends or contacts that are going through this. How old is your daughter? My boys are 8 and 11.I am ready to give up or make him abide by the visitation that the judge set in place, but how? If I can help you, let me know. I would love any input you have too. Thanks, Meredith Mjlewis,

I am finding out that I am a minority. I am the mother and I am supposed to have primary custody.He has done everything in his power to teach my boys to hate me and my family.I hate what you are going through.I hate it for the kids.I have decided to take my ex back to court for contempt.He brings them home when he wants to. I am sick about the situation.Why can’t we live in peace.I will be praying for you and your family.It is very hard on everyone.I think maybe by communicating with others about this, we can help each other cope. I don’t have any friends or contacts that are going through this. How old is your daughter? My boys are 8 and 11.I am ready to give up or make him abide by the visitation that the judge set in place, but how? If I can help you, let me know. I would love any input you have too.
Thanks,
Meredith

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